Does your goal make you unhappy?
Have you ever made a goal and are you frustrated by it?
Are you catching yourself with your goal setting strategies?
Now it is time to learn better strategies that will bring you straight to success while having fun during the process of getting there, because if you apply this advice you will get there!
A goal is something you want to have or something you want to change in your life. It is basically a project that you can manage in a smart way so that eventually you will find where you wanted to be when you set your goal, and start taking steps to make it happen. But first it starts in your head and adopting better thinking strategies followed by powerful action will actually ensure your success, that’s what you want… isn’t it?
Many, if not most, people make New Year’s resolutions and set goals to stop shortly after because they feel unhappy and frustrated. The reason is that they are constantly comparing their really unsatisfying situation to the ideal goal they want to achieve and all they can see is the big gap between the two places. You feel unhappy and you end up spending a lot of energy to keep you constantly motivated if you don’t feel like doing something because it is impossible to be motivated all the time. And it won’t be long before you stop!
In other words, if you delay any form of satisfaction or satisfaction until the ideal goal is fully achieved, you are actually making sure that you will not achieve your goal. Some goals cannot be achieved overnight, so the more you feel the good feelings you think you have when you reach your final goal, the harder it will become to achieve. It is as simple as that!
There is another aspect of not reaching a goal, look out! If you decide that you are only a success and only if you repel this 30 pounds or if you are a millionaire, maybe if you buy that Mercedes and leave it in the way, then you are stuck in a place where you can’t escape, because then you deny yourself all the good feelings to continue… unless you do it the way I’m about to share it with you.
If you wanted to cross a river, you’d use a bridge to continue until you’re on the other side, and if you wanted to grab something on a high shelf, you’d use a ladder, so why would achieving a goal be different?
What can you do differently and right now to ensure that your goals are achieved successfully and with pleasure?
Choose a goal: what do you want?
It could be anything, but let’s take the example of a weight loss goal.
Solution 1: make a power decision. What is the first thing you notice on your way to your goal? What is the first success?
You want to lose 20 kilos, so if you notice that you are losing 2 kilos on your way, congratulate yourself and continue. Do more of the things you notice, and bring success to fruition.
Build a bridge between where you were when you started and your final goal. You just make smaller steps and these small goals will be easy to achieve. The result will surprise you because it will lead you directly to your desired big goal. Go ahead and continue to reward yourself and feel good about what you have already accomplished while you are sure that sooner or later you will be at your final destination!
Solution 2: Keep a journal of your progress and successive successes toward your goal. People tend to forget what they have already accomplished and where they were when they began their journey to a goal, so by writing it all down you can go back at any time and see how far you have come and that will keep you on track and highly motivated. It makes the whole project fun and worth going for.
These two important strategies will show you that you are a success and that you don’t have to wait for an end result to feel good about it or about yourself. Whatever feelings you think or believe you have when your goal has manifested itself in the real world, start by having them now and build your bridge to success from then on.
What you have learned so far to achieve a goal successfully is this: it is very useful to have a concrete and easy way to follow your progress. Find a way to make your goal as concrete as possible and break it down to smaller steps that you can successfully achieve.
And to make achieving your goal even easier and more successful, follow these steps:
Choose a goal
Check if the goal is good for you and will enrich your life.
Find the means that will help you reach your goal: information, people to help you, advice…
Prioritize your goal so that you keep hitting your goal until you finally hit it
Follow your goal, progress and success diary will help you.
The freedom to change your goal or even throw it away if you no longer want it or if it no longer suits you.
What to do now? If you have goals you are already working on, make them easy to follow and start a success diary. Walk step by step across the bridge, until your ultimate success!