The desire to improve your life consistently is one of your most fundamental needs. That feeling that comes from knowing that you are becoming more every day is part of your nature. Knowing that you are influencing and improving your environment through your own influence is hugely satisfying. It is an important ingredient for a happy and fulfilled life. At some level, we all strive for some kind of success. We are constantly looking for ways to have more, to be more and to win more, thinking that if we “have everything” we will be happy and life will be perfect. Then we can take it easy and relax and just enjoy life.
This way of thinking, this mentality, works like a virus that can “kill” you. If not emotionally, then spiritually. Our modern culture is filled with numerous examples of top achievers who seem to have everything, but who are deeply unhappy and constantly have to fight with the challenges within their own character. They do not understand the true purpose of success. From its Latin origin the word success actually means “to move forward” or “to move forward”, implying that success is not “something” you get at the end, but a process that has very little to do with the end result. From this point of view, success is what will improve your life, because it is what brings you forward to a better life experience.
In their pursuit of a better quality of life, most people lose sight of the real reason why they want to be successful in the first place. It is never the “things” but rather the way you believe these things will make you feel once you have them. Your success will either be available or sustainable. Most of your wishes will be available within your life, but this is no guarantee that you will be happy and fulfilled. When you strive to collect and accumulate “things,” you will experience little fulfillment, because you will always depend on something outside of you to give you the feelings you want to experience within yourself; feelings that you believe come from having what you are striving for.
The real purpose of a goal is never to obtain anything of material value, but rather the qualities you will gain as a person in pursuing the goal. In order to have success that is sustainable, you must develop a new mindset; a mindset that does not focus on what you have to do to get what you want, but on what you have to become in order to attract what you want. What you become is what you get to keep. When you shift your focus to developing your character, you can start using goals and success as a means to an end rather than the end and end of life. You begin to distance yourself from the need to have “things” to feel that sense of joy and fulfillment.
Knowing that you can be successful is not enough. You want the experience of success. You want that feeling of success as part of who you are as a person; as part of your character. If your success is attainable, if you are able to collect things, then your experience of success rarely lasts very long. There is no consistency in the experience. So often we see amazing success stories of young achievers who achieve all their goals in a short period of time and then quickly break down emotionally. The reason for this is that they haven’t learned the key to sustainable success, which is the ability to create success in your life that is sustainable. Sustainable success is inexhaustible. It is consistent and takes care of itself. With the qualities and attributes you have learned through the experience of pursuing your goal, you are able to re-create every achievement when you are the source.
The concept of achievable and lasting success is best illustrated by Aesop’s fable of the Goose and the Golden Egg. The goose as the source of the gold could consistently produce the gold, but the farmer wanted it all out of his impatience and ignorance and he wanted it now. So he cut open the goose just to find out that there is nothing. The moral of the story is that you have to cherish and develop yourself to keep your happiness and success. If you only focus on getting goals, you won’t get any more “golden eggs”, because the real value is in what you become and how it makes you feel.
You can get success or you can become it. The goal is the same, but the mentality is very different. You can either get the “things” that make you feel successful or you can become the source of your own success and satisfaction. You want lasting results and this will only come from your ability to create and re-create, upon request, that which you wish to experience during your time on earth. Adopting the mentality of creating sustainable success, of becoming sustainable, begins with the realization that real success comes from giving and not receiving. In giving lies the “getting” in that what you give away is what you get to experience and your experience is what you get to keep forever. Ultimately, to maintain all that you have to give and receive for this is the nature of growth and life itself. Success is a feeling and in making that feeling part of who you are, you will never be without success and you will never be left wanting something outside of you.
Let go of your need to obtain “stuff” and focus on the experience of life and the emotional content of your life. Improve yourself by pursuing goals that make you the kind of person that manifests what you want most. What you obtain will eventually disappear and lose its value. That which you sustain will grow and expand and continue to increase the quality of your beautiful life. Available success is static and like everything in nature that does not grow, it will eventually die.